Premature

Ejaculation

See also “Impotence”

For the man who repeatedly ejaculates prematurely, sex can become a

nightmare. He may run away from his partner out of fear that his sexual

performance
is inadequate,
causing
serious difficulties in the

relationship.

Premature ejaculation is primarily caused by aggravated vata. Vata, with its qualities of quickness and heightened sensitivity to the sense of touch (as pitta brings greater sensitivity to light), gives a predisposition toward faster ejaculation; in general, persons with a vata constitution cannot sustain sex for very long. When vata is unduly increased in a vata individual, premature ejaculation is common.

A psychological, emotional factor of nervousness, fear, or anxiety may also be involved, but this too is due largely to the aggravated vata dosha. Thus the main avenue of treatment is to balance vata dosha.

Another possible cause is high cholesterol (and the related situation, high triglycerides). In men who have this problem, cholesterol deposition takes place in the blood vessels of the penis and the entire reproductive system. These blood vessels become thick and narrow (ischemia), so that the blood supply to the muscles of the penis and prostate is insufficient, causing lack of sphincter control and leading to premature ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation can be brought under control. Here are some effective ways to deal with it.

MASSAGE THE PENIS. Do a gentle massage of the penis. To 1 ounce of sesame oil, add 5 to 10 drops of mustard oil. The diluted mustard oil has a heating effect, which will dilate the blood vessels and improve the circulation of blood to the penis.

IMPORTANT: Do this massage about 1 hour before intercourse, and be sure to wash the penis thoroughly beforehand, or your partner’s delicate skin may feel burned by the hot mustard oil. You can also use castor oil, which will improve the tone of the sphincter muscles.

• Certain medicated ghees, such as brahmi ghee, shatavari ghee, or ashwagandha ghee, can also be used for massaging the pubic bone and the glans penis before making love.

PRACTICE. Practice stimulating the organ up to the point of ejaculation, but don’t ejaculate. Then sit up straight (in a Lotus posture, if you can), and raise the energy by doing Ashwini Mudra, pulling or sucking the anus inward in a series of tense-release movements. Do about 10 repetitions of the Ashwini Mudra. This way you train your organ to be ready but not to ejaculate. To succeed at this, you have to practice with great care.

Do this exercise about 1 to 2 hours before making love.

IMPORTANT: This is not masturbation, nor an endorsement of masturbation.

• You can also learn to control ejaculation by contracting the muscles of the buttocks.
• Locate the marma point (an energy center like an acupressure point) at the center of the glans penis, on the underside. Gently press that point, and at the same time suck the anus inward and hold for five seconds. Release. Do this 10 times. This will improve the blood supply to the penis and will help to maintain the erection. Do this about 1 hour before sex.

YOGA POSTURES. Helpful yoga asanas include the Bow, Fish, and Camel poses, Elevated Lotus, and Vajrasana.

DIET SUGGESTIONS. As mentioned, premature ejaculation is a vata disorder, so a man with this problem should adhere to a vata-soothing diet (see guidelines in chapter 8). If you have high cholesterol, follow a low-cholesterol diet. And if you have diabetes, keep your sugar intake low. Most diabetic men suffer from premature ejaculation.

EFFECTIVE HERBS. Make an herbal formula, mixing equal amounts of the following herbs:

ashwagandha
bala
vidari

Take ½ teaspoon of this mixture twice a day with warm goat’s milk. Cow’s milk is acceptable if you can’t find goat’s milk, but goat’s milk is more effective.

• Ginseng is also helpful. It has properties similar to the Ayurvedic herb ashwagandha. Take ½ teaspoon after lunch and dinner with warm goat’s milk. Again, cow’s milk is acceptable if you can’t locate fresh goat’s milk.

ALMOND MILK. Soak 10 almonds overnight in water. In the morning peel off the skin, put the almonds in a blender, and add 1 cup hot cow’s milk and a pinch each of ginger, cardamom, and saffron. (Saffron is a mild aphrodisiac.) Drink almond milk every morning. You can also make a second cupful in the evening.

HEAL
THE
PROSTATE. Premature ejaculation often accompanies prostate

problems such as prostatitis, or it may be a warning of developing problems. To help with this, massage the area of the prostate gland with castor oil. Apply a small amount of the oil (sesame oil is also beneficial) to the perineum, the area in between the anus and testicles. First rub in a circular motion, then finish with strokes from the anus toward the base of the penis. Don’t press hard; use light strokes.